Take my advice…or don’t



I often get emails from people all over the world asking for my advice.  This is one of the great things about writing a blog about gluten free living.  I feel confident that I have been gluten and dairy free long enough to help others overcome their struggle.  But there is one aspect of this give and take that puzzles me.

People often tell me they have signs of celiac disease.  Yet when I tell them is they need to get tested, they brush me off.  Celiac disease is an immune disease.  It’s not just gluten intolerance.  It can destroy your intestines if not treated.   I tell people not to do an elimination diet before getting tested, or it will skew the results.  Yet I go ignored.

I have been at this for a long time.  I do my research and my due diligence.  When I try to advise people to do the same, they want a quick fix.  Just give me the recipes.  Just tell me what to eat and what not to eat.  It just boggles my mind.

There is a local group that goes to “gluten-free” restaurants in Nashville.  I thought about joining them.  Wouldn’t it be great to go out to dinner with people in a similar situation? Then I thought about it.  How careful are they really?  Are they taking the restaurant’s word for it?  Do they know enough how to read menus and what to look for?  I highly doubt it.  Knowing it would just frustrate me, I gave up on the idea.

I was once a member of a couple of Facebook groups on being gluten free.  One lady kept posting that she was having shortness of breath and chest pain.  Everyone put their two cents in, saying that she had “gluten intolerance” or “gluten allergies”.  I said she might be having a heart attack.  Turns out I was right.  Luckily she survived.  People can’t see the forest for the trees.  I no longer belong to any of those groups.

Everyone is an expert.  Everyone thinks they know better.  But they often don’t.  And it can end badly.

Don’t get me wrong; I am happy to help in any way I can.  But why ask me if you are just going to do what you want anyway?

I have some tips for those who have gluten intolerance symptoms and need help:

  • Consider your source
  • Do your homework
  • learn how to read labels
  • Don’t rely on just one opinion
  • Work with a nutritionist or your doctor
  • get tested for celiac disease
  • No one is right all of the time
  • You don’t know better than the person you are asking for advice

I will continue to help those who ask me.  But I hope that they will go beyond asking for recipes and perhaps take the advice that is given to them into consideration.  It comes from the heart.

8 Comments Add yours

  1. ejroberts5 says:

    Love this post, I was having loads of issues with my stomach swelling after eating bread and pasta. Eventually became so uncomfortable I got tested, came back ok. It then became an everyday problem so was advised to try cutting all wheat and gluten out for a month see if it helped and wow what a difference it has made. I was gaining weight like crazy and couldn’t understand why since quitting it is dropping off nicely.


    1. glutenfreelady says:

      I’m so glad you got tested! I’m glad not eating gluten is helping you. Please take a look around my site for more tips and recipes. If you have any questions, please contact me.

      Liked by 1 person

      1. ejroberts5 says:

        Thanks and I will do been glutenfree since January now and never looking back!


  2. Kenneth T. says:

    You saved a life that day, whether she took your option and ran with it or someone else gave her the same idea.

    I go by the old saying, don’t just take one person’s word for it… research. Everyone’s health and well being is their own. What works for one person won’t necessarily work for another.


    1. glutenfreelady says:

      Hey thanks for that!
      I absolutely agree, and I tell people all the time, do your homework!!!

      Liked by 1 person

      1. Kenneth T. says:

        I think you may have mentioned for me to “get checked” when I “gave up” bread products. I didn’t totally give it up, but I cut waaaay back. I didn’t have any significant improvements so… But even so, I (to this day) don’t eat very many bread products. ***mostly***


  3. This is a great post, really interesting.


    1. glutenfreelady says:

      Thank you.

      Liked by 1 person

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